The Facts of Life

That you were born
and you will die.

That you will sometimes love enough
and sometimes not.

That you will lie
if only to yourself.

That you will get tired.

That you will learn most from the situations
you did not choose.

That there will be some things that move you
more than you can say.

That you will live
that you must be loved.

That you will avoid questions most urgently in need of
your attention.

That you began as the fusion of a sperm and an egg
of two people who once were strangers
and may well still be.

That life isn’t fair.
That life is sometimes good
and sometimes even better than good.

That life is often not so good.

That life is real
and if you can survive it, well,
survive it well
with love
and art
and meaning given
where meaning’s scarce.

That you will learn to live with regret.
That you will learn to live with respect.

That the structures that constrict you
may not be permanently constricting.

That you will probably be okay.

That you must accept change
before you die
but you will die anyway.

So you might as well live
and you might as well love.
You might as well love.
You might as well love.

The Facts of Life

Written by Pádraig Ó Tuama


19 Comments

  1. Unknown's avatar leigha66 said:

    Brilliant thought provoking poem! Thanks for sharing it!

    February 1, 2025
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  2. Unknown's avatar Debra said:

    I love Pádraig Ó Tuama and I’m so glad you shared this poem. He consistently “speaks” to me!

    January 29, 2025
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    • Oh, I am so glad (but not surprised) that you know him as well. Thank you, Debra.

      January 30, 2025
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    • I am so glad so many like this poem as much as I do.

      January 29, 2025
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      • Thanks a lot for your kind reply 🙏❣️🙏

        January 30, 2025
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  3. Unknown's avatar restlessjo said:

    I can’t disagree, and he has the face of one who loves life, Bridget.

    January 29, 2025
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  4. Great poem, Bridget. It’s ending was powerful. Thanks for sharing Pádraig Ó Tuama’s poem. 🙂

    January 29, 2025
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  5. How utterly beautiful. If you don’t mind, I must copy this!

    January 29, 2025
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    • It was only mine to share and I am delighted that you want to copy it. I find it beautiful and spot on.

      January 29, 2025
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  6. Unknown's avatar Darlene said:

    Excellent!!

    January 29, 2025
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