You would think that an older lady with moderate intelligence and a bit of life experience has learned to say “NO,” but no, she hasn’t. Perhaps I don’t want to?
“NO” is the one world I seem to struggle with the most, and people know it. That’s why they come to me when they need a small favor, which usually turns into a time-consuming task that interferes not just with my goals and my schedule but also often costs not just time but also money.
I am the perfect pushover, and I know it – yet I let it happen.
Why?
If I say “NO,” then who will step up and say “YES”?
Can I count on it that there will be one who will say “YES” lined up behind me – somewhere?
What if not?
What if I am the last person, the last straw for someone?
That’s why I have a hard time saying “NO.”
Because, in all honesty, I believe we need to relearn to say “YES” more often.
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I am getting better… it is hard to turn people down though.
A fresh and precious perspective. So glad to have landed here today. Thank you! 💗
You don’t surprise me XX
interesting how one person see u might be completely different to how somebody else. nice knowing u through your own words though,
I too say YES most of the times and get myself into trouble. People’s expectations increase.
I do it wholeheartedly but I land myself in all troubles. And the opposite person as usual ignores once the job is done.
Saying NO is sometimes difficult but we have to say it, as it’s in best interest of all. Not sure am echoing my thoughts correctly but that’s what it is.
I know what you meant and your thoughts echoed perfectly through your comment. It’s a slippery slope sometimes. The right amount of “Yes” and “No”. It’s not as easy as it might seem.
Thank you, Kale.
I’m sure you have a warm heart, which makes it difficult to say no.
Goals are very important to make and so sometimes no is the right answer.
Maybe it’s about balance? Weighing pros and cons before committing or rejecting?
I know I’ve said yes too often and it ended up costing me time and money and causing me mental grief. But the alternative is I like helping people so saying no all the time would not serve me either.
But I don’t know what the formula is so don’t ask me. 🤪 ⚖️
I think you got it right, weigh the pros and cons, listen to your heart more than your head and IF you help with money, make sure it’s money you won’t miss. Like gambling. Kiss it goodbye, before it leaves your wallet 🙂
I’ve gotten better at saying “NO” as I’ve gotten older.
That’s good. I am working on it but past life experiences make it hard.
Just make sure you don’t say “yes” to a scammer. 🙂
I am not so scared about that. I have a firewall and I do my research. I don’t fall for the Princess in Nigeria or I don’t give out private data on phone or online. Sadly, in our case, the real scam is part of my husband’s family. Asking for money and you know they will never pay you back, and you still help.
I learnt to say no these days and I am better off.
How do you know?