Last updated on August 18, 2022

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself.
Trying to become smaller.
Quieter.
Less sensitive.
Less opinionated.
Less needy.
Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away.
I wanted people to like me.
I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted.
So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy.
And for years, I suffered.
But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking.
It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being.
I am worthwhile.
Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter.
My thoughts matter.
My feelings matter.
My voice matters.
And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth.
Even if it makes people angry.
Even if it makes them uncomfortable.
Even if they choose to leave.
I refuse to shrink.
I choose to take up space.
I choose to honor my feelings.
I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met.
I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke.


Yes! It takes a lot of energy stuffing the person we were meant to be into a nicely decorated box! Amen to this, Bridget!
Amen to that
It is very liberating when we eventually understand this. Sadly, many never get to that stage and remain downtrodden!
Sadly, true. I know a few who will never reach the stage of personal freedom. It’s a mindset and sometimes it’s uncomfortable but in the end, well worth it.
A journey to find a purpose
Powerful words!
We would all do well to learn this at a much younger age.
You do matter. Use your voice!
It took time to figure that out, it happened somewhere around my 40th birthday. 🙂
A journey with which many can identify
It is a journey to arrive at this point isn’t it?
It is
Bold and SO right!