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The wish to change is an urge that society plants in us and so from an early age on, we look at our flaws. Me? I am no exception. The last sixty years I found so many things wrong with me. I had an endless wishlist of things I needed to change dramatically and so I tried.
How I looked and how I acted. The way I spoke and yes, of course, my donkey laugh, that had to go too. I didn’t get up early enough and went to bed too late. I didn’t eat enough of this, but too much of that. I had straight hair when everybody around me had big hair. My nails were short, my boops too big, my butt too small and I was too tall.
I was too outspoken, always too honest, sometimes shy, and too loud at times. Opinionated and insecure, goofy and earnest.
What was wrong with me?
Nothing, other than society and foolish questions like today’s prompt.
Be who you are and embrace everything about you.
Yes, we all could be better and kinder, we could do more of this and less of that, and some of it is part of our growing and healing process because somehow we all heal from something that happened in our lives.
We change over time as the years pass by. We adjust because we need to. Our lives change and we change with it. Not always by choice, but out of love or necessity.
I don’t want to change a thing about me, other than perhaps going to bed earlier and maybe laughing and acting like a lady could be fun. The goofy socks I wear, maybe I should rethink them too, and the pink highlights in my hair.
Am I too old or not old enough? Is Young at Heart still in? Am I on the wrong side of politics or the right? How do I adjust? WTH I am so confused.
I believe if we really change something drastic about ourselves and our behavior, then we have simply outgrown some of our habits and actions, and that’s why we feel the urge to grow and transform.

It is like that question if you could go back in time would you change things… be comfortable with who you are and life becomes more manageable.
So full of wisdom. It’s not about happiness or unhappiness, its about being content. Sometimes it might come down (for many) to be manageable.
I sometimes think that the reward for getting older (much older) is that we have the opportunity to finally make peace with who we really are. We don’t seem to have the same need to remake ourselves we do when we are younger. Maybe it’s because we realize we don’t have that much time left. We’d better just make peace with what is! 😉
oh…I thought we were getting candy recipes… I love fudge!
Fudge in this case stands for “Fuck” 🙂 Austrian and Italian Christmas cookie recipes will follow soon.
Cookies! YAY!
Rather than changing anything, one would hope to grow in wisdom and kindness-much like a flower grows from a seed to a beautiful blossom. 🙂
You put it into words so much more beautiful than I ever could. Thank you, Nancy.
That’s very kind of you to say. Thank you, Bridget.
Meh. I have a default pattern when I look in the mirror, I see a list of things I *should* do:
– pluck that eyebrow hair
– defrizz my hair
– situps to flatten the little bulge below
etc
Ridiculous! As soon as I analyze myself this way where I’m fed more things I *should* do by my internal voice aka my subconscious mind in an attempt to somehow appease some invisible and inconsequential societal expectations, I find more things “wrong” with me. Such a perpetually damaging cycle.
Ugh
So yep, I’m aware of it too and able to put a stop to it quickly (most of the time).
It’s a journey. 🥴
We are so confident when we are little and then society teaches us to doubt ourselves, even belittles us at times. I think the older we get, the more we realize that we all are uniquely different and that makes us so interesting. I think I always tried to fit into a trend or look and act like someone I admired from afar.
It takes courage to love yourself and somewhere between the age of 40 and 60 I found it. 🙂
Louise Hay taught me how to appreciate myself, via her YouTube videos. She too mentioned how babies are so confident, and how they lose this confidence as they grow up. 😊
“Nothing, other than society and foolish questions like today’s prompt.” 💯 agree. I had a similar response!
I am glad you like that 🙂